As I’ve mentioned a time or twenty, Annalyn is a feisty little girl. She’s got attitude. She’s a character, that one.
And on Monday night, we had a terrible evening together. There was crying and yelling and more crying. She got upset, too.
After she went to bed, I just felt awful. Had I told her I loved her? Yes. But would she remember? Or would she only remember how we fought over dinner and how I didn’t let her eat pudding or play with my digital camera or pee in the bathtub?
I know it’s just one day, but it was certainly not my finest parenting moment.
Last night, however, was different.
I picked her up at the babysitter’s house, and other than a stealthy escape up the stairs, she was very sweet. (Sometimes she throws a big old hissy fit when I tell her it’s time to go home. It’s heartwarming, really.)
We drove from there to the library and checked out some board books for her (and a novel for me). She loved the first book I handed her and carried it all the way to the car. And she chatted with the librarian who had to renew my library card, telling her that “No,” she doesn’t like to read books and “No,” she’s not a silly girl.
On the way home, she entertained herself in the car, talking to her favorite thing in the whole world these days: her shoes. Apparently, they have a lot to talk about, my daughter and her shoes, despite the fact that they’re rarely separated. (She even sleeps in them sometimes. I know that’s weird – and smelly – but it’s way easier than fighting over it.)
Once we got to the house, she waited for me to “buck-uh” – or, unbuckle her, as we put it in grown-up English. We went inside and read four of her five new library books – even the long one about Jesus.
Then, because I was about to die of hunger (thanks to a half-hearted attempt at healthy eating), I grabbed a slice of cheese from the fridge. Of course, my little shadow wasn’t about to let me eat the whole thing by myself. So we shared some cheese.
As I opened the fridge to get a second slice of cheese, she said, “Milk!” I love that she’s such a good milk drinker – and it’s so smart that she knows it comes from the fridge. I mean, Mark has tried to explain that it actually comes from cows, but that concept may be a little over her head at this point.
I decided, Hey, why not try something new? So I poured her milk into a regular sippy cup. Annalyn is a champ at drinking with a straw, but not so hot at regular sippies. And really, after a couple days of trying way back when she was, ahem, one, I gave up and figured straws are good enough for government work.
But last night, we gave the sippy cup the old college try. And it wasn’t half bad. There was a lot of spilled milk, of course. But we didn’t cry over it. No, in typical OCD style, we mopped it up with a towel. And by that, I mean, we mopped and dabbed and wiped each little drop.
We’re a little crazy like that, my kid and me.
After this sippy cup adventure, I realized it was actually time for dinner. So I fixed Annalyn her favorite “nuggies” – chicken nuggets. And the only vegetable she’ll eat these days – green beans.
That kid – the one who hardly eats anything non-carby these days – ate her whole dinner! She even ate most her pineapple and drank some more milk. (And, P.S., she got a little ticked when I tried to give her the straw cup. Nope, only sippy cups for my girl. Until tomorrow. Because seriously, that was one crazy mess.)
Pudding was, of course, the perfect way to end this peaceful for the most part meal. As we scraped the cup clean, Annalyn got upset because I told her it was all gone. So, as I got her bath ready, I let her go to town with the cup and spoon. I wish I’d taken a picture, because it was hilarious. Instead, I tried to hold her hands down and keep her from touching me on the way to the tub.
What? She was all gross!
Annalyn took a fun bath, playing with her duck (“Cack! Cack!”) and even standing up to get out when it was time.
I dried her off, lotioned her up, put a diaper on the bottom she’s recently discovered (oh, joy) and got her into her jammies. Then I combed her hair, kissed her little face and told her it was time for bed.
“Night-night. Bye-bye.”
Just like that.
Was it luck? My awesome parenting skills? A full moon? Doesn’t matter. Perfect nights with my sweet girl work for me, although I have no idea how it happened or when another one will occur. For more stuff that works, head over to We Are THAT Family!
Oh the mommy guilt! Why do we do that to ourselves?! There are so many nights when I went back into Ethan's room to hold him and kiss him after he was asleep because I had the doomsday feeling that I had scarred him for life. And then the next day I totally redeem myself when we have an awesome day together…toddlerhood is crazy! let's face it, we're dealing with someone who has multiple personalities…who wouldn't go a little crazy too?
I hear ya on the "bad Mommy" days. There's constant guilt and worrying – will my kids grow up and remember us as only "those people who yelled all the time"? It just seems its a mystery as what causes a "good" day versus a "bad" day.
(And Will has slept with a BASKETBALL simply cuz it was easier to let him than to have him have a melt down, then calm him down and get him ready to sleep AGAIN. So what if he smelt like rubber and dirt the next morning?)
Last night, after a day of struggles and screaming, I took Libbie upstairs, put her in her PJs, sang and danced with her to Praise Baby, read a book, and laid her down in her crib. SHE DIDN'T CRY. SHE JUST WENT TO SLEEP. That never happens.
Must have been the phase of the moon or something!
I, too, can be a bit OCD and it is such a relief to hear that it will be ok of I don't want my covered in {whatever the case may be} child to touch me until they're in the bath.
Phew!
I think it all comes down to pure-and-random luck. :) I look back at those days with my kiddos and I truly just remember the good moments now. Don't worry too much – this too will pass and will soon just be a distant memory.
Wasn't it nice to have such a lovely day together though?
I can so relate to your post!!! I have four kiddos, so on my bad days I have four times the guilt! :-) Those kids know how much we love them, though, regardless of how frustrated we get. Love your blog, so glad I found you!
~Crystal
She clearly loves crocs a lot more than I do. ;)
love love love the pic of Annalynn in the bath! what a cutie-patootie! you are so very normal. there are days that all I seem to do is just getting after my kids so I feel bad after they've gone to bed and I've had a moment to breathe. Then I feel like they need to know they are loved and I go tell their little sleeping bodies and give them a kiss.
yea mommy!
standing up in the tub when it's time to get out is a HUGE accomplishment around here too. sooo way better than throwing a screaming fit! :-)
i'm glad you had a good night with her. and that it is now documented so that you can remember it when she's 14 and has a whole different attitude! :-)