When Annalyn was in full-time daycare, I didn’t have time to get to know her classmates’ parents. Sure, I smiled politely – and tried not to ding their cars in the cramped parking lot. But when it came time for class parties and school fundraisers, I just didn’t participate.
[I know this is not good. But it’s how it was. Just don’t tell the Mom of the Year committee.]
Now that my schedule has freed up quite a bit, I’m excited – and a little nervous – to get more involved. But even though we walk past each other during morning drop-off, I hadn’t had a chance to get to know any of the other parents.
Enter the class Halloween party. I just knew it: THIS would be my chance.
When Annalyn’s teachers sent home the sign-up sheet for the party, I played it safe and volunteered to bring drinks and cups. The sheet came back with a note that said cups had already been provided, and that I should not bring boxed drinks. Please.
Ummm…what? Not boxed? Then what am I supposed to bring?
Honestly, I realize this is not a difficult situation. It’s not complicated or confusing or anything. But for DAYS, I could not think of a single drink that is not boxed.
Here’s the thing: WE NEVER BUY BOXED DRINKS. But once they said “no boxed drinks,” it’s the ONLY thing I could think of!
Thankfully, I realized a few days before the big party that I could just buy a bottle of juice. (I know. I am so smart.)
I decided to be festive and bought apple cider. It cost about three times more than regular juice, but you know what? It was for a PARTY.
Apparently, not everyone feels the same.
As I folded myself into a mom accordion to sit (on the floor) next to Annalyn as her teachers passed out party snacks, I heard another mom say to her dad (I think it was her dad. It’s not like we went around the room and did introductions. Although that sure would have been nice.), “Hahaha! When they poured it into his cup, he [her son, another student in the class] said, ‘Ew! I don’t want JUICE! It has too much sugar!’ Hahaha!”
Look. I make no secret of my issues with food (and weight). I have bad eating habits and am forever battling them. But because of that, I have worked SO hard to teach Annalyn to eat much better. And it’s worked (so far)! She loves fruits and vegetables, and she only drinks milk and water.
But because I tried to be FESTIVE, now I’m branded the UNHEALTHY mom.
Did I mention that the anti-sugar mom is the size of a toothpick, drives a Hummer and wears low-cut yoga pants every day that conveniently reveal her lower back tattoo? And that I was trying not to be all judgy-judgy?!
Oh well. Since the party, I’ve realized that it’s not that big of a deal. (News flash!)
And besides, I met three other moms (and one dad) who were SUPER nice. One lady suggested we get together and scrapbook, the mom and dad who live near us and have THREE girls age THREE and under cracked me up, and the other mom and I bonded over willful three-year-olds and their tantrums.
So, overall, the preschool Halloween party was good for meeting some other parents. Even if ONE of them hates me and my sugar-drinking ways.
[Oh yeah, Annalyn had a good time, too. Until she threw a fit and got herself put in timeout. By me, not her teachers. That’s notable, because I’m confident her teachers would have known not to put her in the stairway for timeout. The stairway that ECHOES. Yeah.]
This Friday, I’m giving this meeting other moms thing another try. I’m going to a MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) meeting. When I signed up, I didn’t think I’d know anyone, but apparently a couple girls from my church go to this group. I’ll keep you posted on how this outing is . . .
If you’re a mother, are you friends with the parents at your kids’ schools? And whether you’re a mom or not, do you have any suggestions for the next time I take drinks for the class?